trigger warning: sexual assault
I had so much fun celebrating Pride last weekend! π€ͺπ π»πΊ However, Pride isnβt just a celebration, itβs a protest.
This week reminded me that thereβs a lot that we need to keep fighting for. From the Supreme Courtβs decision to uphold bans on transgender athletes participating in women and girls' sports, to the St. Louis Blues signing Dillon Dube, trans rights and womenβs rights are top of mind for me. It is so incredibly frustrating to me that trans rights are framed as being at odds with womenβs rights when they are literally the same thing.
This week:
The biggest womenβs hockey headline this week was that Abbey Murphy, Caitlin Kraemer, and Chloe Primerano got the opportunity to train at the Edmonton Oilers development camp. While I made a video to highlight these amazing athletes and show how sport can bring people together across different genders, I couldnβt ignore the fact that the Oilers just hired problematic head coach Mike Babcock, and the barrage of sexist comments were inescapable.
In the past, when I would get upset about things going on in menβs hockey, I would be like, βI hate menβs hockey, Iβll just focus on womenβs hockeyβ. But women being invited to the Oilers development camp shows just how interconnected womenβs hockey and menβs hockey is. Would the comments be so disrespectful if sexual violence against women wasnβt so normalized? Would people be so upset about women playing hockey with men if anti-trans rhetoric didnβt rely on the notion that women must be defined by being inherently weaker than men and must be protected from them?
In βWhose Ice Is It Anyway? A critical look at how coverage of the NHL and PWHL frames Queerness, revealing the politics of who gets to define the gameβs culture,β I spoke to author Heaven Silver about the importance of queer perspectives in hockey media.
Sports journalism doesnβt just reflect hockey culture, it shapes it, and when coverage sidelines Queer voices or softens institutional accountability, it helps preserve a version of the game that remains comfortable for the majority and silent about those it marginalizes.
Iβm not gonna lie, this stuff is hard to talk about. I could just stick to womenβs hockey. I could just tell you the news. But that would defeat the entire point of 365HockeyGirl. I have my own perspective to share, Iβm determined to make womenβs hockey inclusive, and I have an amazing audience who wants to do the same. I may not be an expert yet, but Iβm committed to learning, and I invite you all to learn along with me.
Sexual violence and its normalization as a means of compulsory heterosexuality
The two biggest news stories this week were the Blues signing Dillon Dube and the Supreme Court upholding bans on trans athletes. On the surface, these two things might seem unrelated. Often when we talk about sexual assault, especially in heterosexual contexts, itβs not framed as something that directly affects queer people. Yet, I wanted to learn more about the connection between the two, and my friend Not Kate Sports recommended that I read Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence by Adrienne Rich.
What is compulsory heterosexuality?
Adrienne Rich describes compulsory heterosexuality as βa cluster of forces within which women have been convinced that marriage and sexual orientation toward men are inevitableβeven if unsatisfying or oppressiveβcomponents of their lives.β
Rich argues that it is essential for feminists to study heterosexuality, saying, βI am suggesting that heterosexuality, like motherhood, needs to be recognized and studied as a political institutionβeven, or especially, by those individuals who feel they are, in their personal experience, the precursors of a new social relation between the sexes.β
Forcing male sexuality upon women as a characteristic of male power
In her essay, Rich lists 8 characteristics of male power which contribute to compulsory heterosexuality.
Characteristic number 2 is forcing male sexuality upon women.
2. or to force it [male sexuality] upon themβ [by means of rape (including marital rape) and wife beating; father-daughter, brother-sister incest; the socialization of women to feel that male sexual βdriveβ amounts to a right; idealization of heterosexual romance in art, literature, the media, advertising, etc.; child marriage; arranged marriage; prostitution; the harem; psychoanalytic doctrines of frigidity and vaginal orgasm; pornographic depictions of women responding pleasurably to sexual violence and humiliation (a subliminal message being that sadistic heterosexuality is more βnormalβ than sensuality between women)
This quote contains a lot of examples, but I see these falling into two main buckets. The first is forcing male sexuality upon women physically, in the case of rape or conversion therapy. The second is social, for example, βthe socialization of women to feel that male sexual βdriveβ amounts to a rightβ, which can come from media and culture.
Applying this framework to the Hockey Canada SA trial, the alleged incident itself is an example of male sexuality being forced upon a woman physically. However, NHL teams signing men who were charged in the trail is an example of male sexuality being forced upon women socially, because the NHL is a form of mainstream media which is normalizing this behavior.
Preventing the movement of women as a characteristic of male power
The 5th characteristic of male power listed by Rich which contributes to compulsory heterosexuality is preventing the movement of women.
5. to confine them physically and prevent their movementβ[by means of rape as terrorism, keeping women off the streets; purdah; foot binding; atrophying of womenβs athletic capabilities; high heels and βfeminineβ dress codes in fashion; the veil; sexual harassment on the streets; horizontal segregation of women in employment; prescriptions for βfull-timeβ mothering at home; enforced economic dependence of wives]
Not only does sexual violence force male sexuality upon women, but it also physically limits the movements of women. I thought it was really interesting that Rich mentioned womenβs athletic capabilities in this same category, because it positions womenβs sports as a threat to male power. While Rich mentions βhorizontal segregation of women in employmentβ (forcing men and women to do different types of jobs), I think of horizontal segregation of women in sports, such as forcing girls to do figure skating instead of hockey. Furthermore, efforts to keep trans people out of sport are not just about maintaining segregation and removing trans people from social spheres, but about physically preventing their movement.
Why we need to challenge rape culture in hockey
People like to think of menβs and womenβs hockey as being separate, but they exist within the same ecosystems of media and ownership. The NHL isnβt just entertainment, itβs a cultural institution that affects who feels welcome in all spheres of hockey. I chose not to watch the Stanley Cup Finals this year because of Carter Hart, but even without me watching it, it will continue to affect hockey culture. Thatβs why I canβt just talk about womenβs hockey, I have to actively push back against rape culture in menβs hockey as well.
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St. Louis Blues sign Dillon Dube, one of five charged in the Hockey Canada sexual assault case
The Saint Louis Blues have signed Dillon Dube to a one year contract.
What is the Hockey Canada sexual assault scandal?
In 2025, five hockey players were charged with sexual assault: Alex Formenton, Dillon Dube, Michael McLeod, Cal Foote, and Carter Hart. The incident was an alleged group sexual assault that occurred in 2018, where members of the 2018 Canada World Juniors team allegedly assaulted a woman in her hotel room. The victim was known as E.M. All five men in the trial were acquitted, and this was one of the biggest trials in all of Canada. To learn more, I recommend watching Neil Deinβs video covering the case.
Carter Hart was the first of the five men to come back to the NHL. Dillon Dube will be the second. Carter Hart was the starting goaltender for the Vegas Golden Knights, who made it all the way to the Stanley Cup Final this year. There were literally "no means no" chants breaking out in the arena.
Sexual assault is a hockey problem, not a Golden Knights problem
It was really easy for everybody to root against the Vegas Golden Knights because a lot of people already hated the Golden Knights even before they signed Carter Hart. The Hart signing solidified the Golden Knights as the villain of the NHL. I definitely played into this narrative myself, but I felt like it was important for people to understand that the hate for the Golden Knights came from a lot of different reasons. The Stanley Cup Final had this feeling of good versus evil, and when the Carolina Hurricanes won the Stanley Cup there was like this huge sigh of relief. Even though it was shitty to have Carter Hart be in the final, like at least he didn't win.
Yet, this signing of Dillon Dube confirmed something that we all knew, which is that sexual assault isnβt just a Golden Knights problem, itβs a hockey problem. The Hurricanes initially showed interest in Michael McLeod and Carter Hart, although they ultimately did not sign them.
The NHL is the only major pro sports league in North America that does not have a formal written policy about sexual assault.
So what can we do about it?
SOAR Canada is working with the NHL and the NHLPA to implement a sexual assault policy. You can sign their open letter or their petition.
I also recommend reading We Breed Lions: Confronting Canada's Troubled Hockey Culture by Rick Westhead. This book was super eye-opening for me because a lot of the focus for βhockey cultureβ is on the NHL, but the junior hockey system is really what teaches misogyny and sexual assault to young men.
π³ββ§οΈ Supreme Court upholds bans on trans athletes participating in women and girls' sports
On June 30, the Supreme Court ruled that states may ban transgender girls from participating in sports at publicly funded schools.
Trans people make womenβs sports special β€
Thereβs a false narrative that trans people are βruining womenβs sportsβ, when the reality is that trans people have always made womenβs sports special. My favorite experiences playing and watching sports have been with trans people, and the queerness of womenβs sports is what made me want to talk about it every day. If youβre reading this and youβre trans, I just want to say thank you. β€
What laws were upheld?
Idaho enacted theΒ Fairness in Womenβs Sports Act in 2020. The law bans trans women and girls from participating on any womenβs and girlsβ sports teams in public schools from elementary school through college. Since then, 25 other states enacted similar bans.
West Virginia passed the Save Womenβs Sports Act in 2022. The law prohibits trans women and girls from participating on womenβs and girlsβ sports team in public secondary schools and colleges.
Who were the challengers?
Lindsay Hecox: Now 24, she filed the lawsuit in 2020 when she wanted to try out for the womenβs track and cross-country teams at Boise State University in Idaho.
Becky Pepper Jackson: Now 16, her mother filed the lawsuit in 2021 when Becky wanted to participate in cross country and track-and-field.
For a complete breakdown of the court ruling, please see the SCOTUS blog.
Itβs not about sportsβ¦ but it also is?
These laws arenβt just about sports, they are about trying to force trans people to not exist. Nothing shows this more clearly than Justice Clarence Thomasβ opinion.
βMen and boys with gender dysphoria are not women or girls,β Thomas wrote, βeven if they believe that they are. Sex is an immutable, βbiologicalβ characteristic; it is binary; and βmanβ and βwoman,β βboyβ and βgirl,β are the terms that correspond to adults and children of each sex. To use language to obscure realityβto show βindifference regarding the truthββis to lie to the public and cease to treat our fellow citizens βas equal[s].ββ
The fact that sports are serving as a battleground for queer rights shows just how powerful sports are politically. While anti-trans people will use sports to discriminate against trans people, we can use sports to build our own communities and culture.
One example that comes to mind is the 1968 Olympics Black Power salute, where Tommie Smith, John Carlos, and Peter Norman protested for civil rights while on the podium for the 200m running event. Almost 50 years later in 2016, Colin Kaepernick kneeled during the anthem, and Megan Rapinoe kneeled in solidarity.
How does this relate to womenβs hockey?
Thank you to pwhldaily on Instagram for putting together this awesome carousel of trans people in professional hockey. π³ββ§οΈ β¨
In January, USA hockey modified their Participant Eligibility Policy to ban trans players in programs restricted by sex. USA hockey oversees all levels of the game in the USA, from youth hockey and beer league to the US national team.
While the PWHL posted on Instagram to celebrate Transgender Day of Visibility, they have yet to create a gender inclusion policy.
There is currently one openly nonbinary player in the PWHL: Carly βCJβ Jackson, who plays for the Seattle Torrent.
PWHL player Britta Curl-Salemme has alienated trans fans by partnering with an anti-trans organization.
So what can we do about it?
As a cis person, I really want to be a good ally to trans people. Iβve found that directly listening to trans voices has helped me understand whatβs going on and itβs given me the tools to discuss these issues and push back against transphobia in my day-to-day interactions.
Highlighting trans voices in hockey:
If you want to learn from a trans hockey playerβs perspective, make sure to follow Harrison Browne and read his book Let Us Play
Check out Offside News Co, a queer-led online hockey magazine. Read Queering the Game: How Hockey Helped Me Come Out as Trans by co-founder Avery Beaumont.
Highlighting trans voices in sports:
To learn more about the overall topic of trans people and gender in sports, I highly recommend reading Fair Play: How Sports Shape the Gender Debates by Katie Barnes.
Chris Mosier is a trans athlete and advocate for trans rights. In 2015, Mosier earned a spot on the Team USA sprint duathlon men's team for the 2016 World Championship in the men's 35-39 age group division, making him the first known out trans athlete to join a U.S. national team different from his sex at birth.
Schuyler Bailar was the first openly transgender NCAA Division I swimmer, as well as the first trans D1 NCAA menβs athlete. You can read Bailarβs book, He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters.
Subscribe to Out of Your League, a newsletter by trans sportswriter and longtime media critic Frankie de la Cretaz!
Donate to support trans inclusion in sports:
If you want to support trans inclusion in hockey, you can donate to Seattle Pride Hockey Association, which is the host of the largest queer hockey tournament in the world, or donate to Seattle Womenβs Hockey Club.
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π³οΈβππ³οΈββ§οΈ How does hockey media shape culture?
Hockey has always been a game of possession. Who controls the puck, who controls the ice. But the more telling battle now is over language: who controls the narrative. In the hands of independent voices, the game finally sounds more accessible to Queer fans.β
In βWhose Ice Is It Anyway? A critical look at how coverage of the NHL and PWHL frames Queerness, revealing the politics of who gets to define the gameβs culture,β I spoke to author Heaven Silver about the importance of queer perspectives in hockey media.
P.S. If you made it to the end of the newsletter, congratulations! I tried something different this week, hope you enjoyed! - 365 π«Ά
